I know, the world is made of colorful characters.
Something just came crashing in. Reminded me of someone. Nooo, a female! We used to chat for hours! Now we don't anymore. In fact, I thought... ive had just about enough of her.
She does this a lot.
When she ran away from her parents, she was madly in love with her boyfriend. She didnt run away to be with him. She ran away because she was stressed up with taking care of her very ill mother and overly controlling dad. And the off and on relationship with her boyfriend isnt helping at all. Shes 37 and never been married. Its a huge thing here to most people. Shes feeling the heat.
We were chatting about how shes holding up, and some other stuff.
You know how it is chatting on whatsapp? 10 chats at one go. I still concentrated on her, until my brother posted a photo of someone looking so familiar, a whole family performing Umrah or Haj.
So thats when I chatted that my brother asking who they are. And he told me its Z, who is Ns brother. So I reposted the pics. And we talked about it for a while. Then continued with the earlier topic. After a little while, my brother posted another photo of Z. And I shared it with her as well.
AND SHE WENT CRAZY!!!!
And started calling me selfish. Saying that she always listen to my whining, and I, on the other hand, the crappy selfish bitch. And went on ranting, i can almost see her face!
Then all our mutual friends just stopped talking to me.
Why the hell is that?
It cant be mere coincidence that everyone just stopped right after her ranting. And dont tell me 'jangan sangka buruk' ..no bad assumption, so negative!
After that, I decided enough is enough, I dont need anyone who keeps bringing me down in my life, at this age! And since I dont ever listen to her, Im sure that Im a 'goodriddance' case for her.
When I think back, everything that she told me about her relatives, Im glad I walked away earlier.
I honestly dont understand. People say that if one person say that youre not a trustworthy friend, that person could be just bad-mouthing you. But if a few people sort of feel the same towards you, then you probably are not a good friend!
So Im not a good friend!
Cuzzzz, well, here are more..
A few years ago, I freelanced for the owner of a food supplement (OB), writing for the blog. Maintaining a few social media accounts. OB was introduced to me by a friend. As a freelance writer, I always try to do as much as I could, meaning that I dont want to be tied up to just one project.
I took in one ad-hoc job, but still maintaining the food supplement blog and the social media accounts. The owner paid a monthly retainer fee.
Im not sure why, but maintaining daily phone conversation is a compulsary routine. Not necessarily business related matter. Sometimes just to hear my voice. I figured it was for the purpose of 'checking up' on me..was I sleeping on the job, was I really sick? At the time I was on a 9 month sick leave, so being sick, on and off was almost normal..
The owner decided that we should meet up and discuss further on what we can do together, a permanent employment - sort of - meaning a fixed salary and working only for the Company. I agreed to meet to look at the terms, conditions and perks. (Please be patient, Id like to be as detailed as possible so that you know and understand)
So they came and discussed my term of employment. Which I thought a little bit too open. Its like..I dont discuss my salary or bank balance with a friend. They think its ok to. I asked whats this friend in the Company. Just an old friend. But this friend gave an impression that I needed to explain everything to them both. And I didnt know what I was suppose to explain.
I asked the owner why was my salary etc discussed with this friend - because its a friendship, I didnt think youd mind.
In the end, I ended the freelance agreement and didnt accept the offer to go permanent. Out of goodwill and friendship, we kept in touch.
My friend later on, with a few other friends met for dinner. My friend brought up about talking to OB and irrelevant stuff like, my friend invited OB to join us, but refused to. A few days or weeks after this dinner, I received a text message asking how I am. And we exchanged messages for a bit until I asked, why didnt you join us for dinner..the reply was "I didnt even know that you guys were meeting up, if I had known, id love to join..."
The first thing that crept up my head was, what was the point of telling me the lie about the invitation to join us, and was declined? Whats the point?
I have this VERY BAD HABIT of asking, for confirmation..of what Im not sure myself, why did you say something else and the other party said something else? In other words, why did one of you lie? For what? Protecting whom? I dont know.. I wasnt mad, in fact I found that it was quite hilarious that someone/anyone at all, thought that it would do something to me.. hmm maybe hurt my feelings? Or embarrass me?
Well, so I asked why? My other mistake besides asking was this, I asked in a group inbox of facebook as "reply all"!!!!! Goodness gracious Norrie!
"OB SMSed me, just keeping in touch. Why did you say you invited OB, OB said you guys have not talked for months.."
"What is this drama, babe? What are you trying to say?" was the respond I got...!
"No drama babe, just curious, why you said something else and the other party said something else. Thats all"
Then EVERYBODY went quiet! Everybody in the thread! A few months down the road, every mutual friend was acting weird, as in not talking to me. One even refused to sell me rempeyek for Raya. I thought whats going on here..weve been back and forth about the bank account details to transfer the money. In the end, I got it!
Hmmm..
I have many more examples, macam sedara yg suka tetiba citer "I tengah shopping ni" atau "arini masak ketam, bestnyerrrr, makan ramai2" pastu bila I tak tau cmna nsk respond baik2 lagi dah, I duk diam2, dia kata I sombong
"Sombong aa, malas nak layannnn"
Pastu semua sedara2 lain dah pandang I semacam..
Rimas lah jugak..
By three methods, we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and Third by experience, which is the bitterest - Confucius
Something just came crashing in. Reminded me of someone. Nooo, a female! We used to chat for hours! Now we don't anymore. In fact, I thought... ive had just about enough of her.
She does this a lot.
When she ran away from her parents, she was madly in love with her boyfriend. She didnt run away to be with him. She ran away because she was stressed up with taking care of her very ill mother and overly controlling dad. And the off and on relationship with her boyfriend isnt helping at all. Shes 37 and never been married. Its a huge thing here to most people. Shes feeling the heat.
We were chatting about how shes holding up, and some other stuff.
You know how it is chatting on whatsapp? 10 chats at one go. I still concentrated on her, until my brother posted a photo of someone looking so familiar, a whole family performing Umrah or Haj.
So thats when I chatted that my brother asking who they are. And he told me its Z, who is Ns brother. So I reposted the pics. And we talked about it for a while. Then continued with the earlier topic. After a little while, my brother posted another photo of Z. And I shared it with her as well.
AND SHE WENT CRAZY!!!!
And started calling me selfish. Saying that she always listen to my whining, and I, on the other hand, the crappy selfish bitch. And went on ranting, i can almost see her face!
Then all our mutual friends just stopped talking to me.
Why the hell is that?
It cant be mere coincidence that everyone just stopped right after her ranting. And dont tell me 'jangan sangka buruk' ..no bad assumption, so negative!
After that, I decided enough is enough, I dont need anyone who keeps bringing me down in my life, at this age! And since I dont ever listen to her, Im sure that Im a 'goodriddance' case for her.
When I think back, everything that she told me about her relatives, Im glad I walked away earlier.
I honestly dont understand. People say that if one person say that youre not a trustworthy friend, that person could be just bad-mouthing you. But if a few people sort of feel the same towards you, then you probably are not a good friend!
So Im not a good friend!
Cuzzzz, well, here are more..
A few years ago, I freelanced for the owner of a food supplement (OB), writing for the blog. Maintaining a few social media accounts. OB was introduced to me by a friend. As a freelance writer, I always try to do as much as I could, meaning that I dont want to be tied up to just one project.
I took in one ad-hoc job, but still maintaining the food supplement blog and the social media accounts. The owner paid a monthly retainer fee.
Im not sure why, but maintaining daily phone conversation is a compulsary routine. Not necessarily business related matter. Sometimes just to hear my voice. I figured it was for the purpose of 'checking up' on me..was I sleeping on the job, was I really sick? At the time I was on a 9 month sick leave, so being sick, on and off was almost normal..
The owner decided that we should meet up and discuss further on what we can do together, a permanent employment - sort of - meaning a fixed salary and working only for the Company. I agreed to meet to look at the terms, conditions and perks. (Please be patient, Id like to be as detailed as possible so that you know and understand)
So they came and discussed my term of employment. Which I thought a little bit too open. Its like..I dont discuss my salary or bank balance with a friend. They think its ok to. I asked whats this friend in the Company. Just an old friend. But this friend gave an impression that I needed to explain everything to them both. And I didnt know what I was suppose to explain.
I asked the owner why was my salary etc discussed with this friend - because its a friendship, I didnt think youd mind.
In the end, I ended the freelance agreement and didnt accept the offer to go permanent. Out of goodwill and friendship, we kept in touch.
My friend later on, with a few other friends met for dinner. My friend brought up about talking to OB and irrelevant stuff like, my friend invited OB to join us, but refused to. A few days or weeks after this dinner, I received a text message asking how I am. And we exchanged messages for a bit until I asked, why didnt you join us for dinner..the reply was "I didnt even know that you guys were meeting up, if I had known, id love to join..."
The first thing that crept up my head was, what was the point of telling me the lie about the invitation to join us, and was declined? Whats the point?
I have this VERY BAD HABIT of asking, for confirmation..of what Im not sure myself, why did you say something else and the other party said something else? In other words, why did one of you lie? For what? Protecting whom? I dont know.. I wasnt mad, in fact I found that it was quite hilarious that someone/anyone at all, thought that it would do something to me.. hmm maybe hurt my feelings? Or embarrass me?
Well, so I asked why? My other mistake besides asking was this, I asked in a group inbox of facebook as "reply all"!!!!! Goodness gracious Norrie!
"OB SMSed me, just keeping in touch. Why did you say you invited OB, OB said you guys have not talked for months.."
"What is this drama, babe? What are you trying to say?" was the respond I got...!
"No drama babe, just curious, why you said something else and the other party said something else. Thats all"
Then EVERYBODY went quiet! Everybody in the thread! A few months down the road, every mutual friend was acting weird, as in not talking to me. One even refused to sell me rempeyek for Raya. I thought whats going on here..weve been back and forth about the bank account details to transfer the money. In the end, I got it!
Hmmm..
I have many more examples, macam sedara yg suka tetiba citer "I tengah shopping ni" atau "arini masak ketam, bestnyerrrr, makan ramai2" pastu bila I tak tau cmna nsk respond baik2 lagi dah, I duk diam2, dia kata I sombong
"Sombong aa, malas nak layannnn"
Pastu semua sedara2 lain dah pandang I semacam..
Rimas lah jugak..
By three methods, we may learn wisdom: First, by reflection, which is noblest; Second, by imitation, which is easiest; and Third by experience, which is the bitterest - Confucius
