Birthday? Whose?

I am VERYYYY BADDD with dates, especially birthdays! Anniversaries even. 2015 had seen me being a real 'bad' friend to 3 of my closest friends.
Im not giving you any excuses.
I used to rely on FB birthday reminder.. (WHAAAAAT???)
I know! Pathetic.
But I hardly login to FB these days.

So, I have made an effort to note all my REAL friends birth dates in my calendar until 2020!! I have no anniversaries to celebrate, so thats covered.
Hospital appointments, mine and kids - CHECKED
Movie releases - ??

I noticed that I get dates confused when its about a band or any music-related chronological info!
I dont even know when is john mayers birthday...

I love you gals, I wont forget next year! I know I truly suck!

BUAT LETIH JE! Part 1

Kadang2 saya tak sengaja akan terfikir pasal kenapa yeh, orang ni buat macam tu, orang tu buat macam ni..?
Kita nak semua orang dalam dunia sama macam kita ke?

Duluuuuu, saya selalu fikir, kenapa orang 'suka' cakap pasal saya (perasaaaaaaan!!!!) ???? Tapi, ada kebenarannya. Sebelum kena carut (saya pernah di 'F-O' oleh seorang kenalan dalam FB yang hidupnya lagi screwed up dari aku!! Dia tanya "Why do you think that people talk about you? Or... do you actually think that youre fault-free?" Then he went on maki-ing orang. Rupanya dengar2 dari girlfriend dia, dia ni memang gemar mencarut, tapi tak ngaku. Haha, normallah tu, manusia namanya, kan? Jarang yang nak mengaku salah atau lemah. Dah buat salahpun, bukan nak minta maaf. Lagi buat macam takde apa2. Kita dah terbiasa, kita diajar agar jangan suka panjang2kan cerita dengan cara "buat tak reti je" bukannya dengan cara talking about things/it, tapi diajar suruh ignore the subject. Then perkara yang sama, jadi berulang2 kali. Takde sapa akan faham sebab kita dah diajar suruh buat tak tau jerrrr..
Iya ke? Tapi berdosa kan sakitkan hati orang - selagi orang yang disakiti tak maafkan, sampai abih nafas kita berdosa dengan dia.
Kita ni dah terlampau terbiasa dengan sikap "alah, buat tak reti je lah", "buat macam biasa je, nanti lama2 ok lah tu" , "toksah layan jer"
OK sebelum yang lain2 ikut ngata, bagi aku pi sejukkan badan dulu. Bahangggg!

(45min later)

Im back. Dah sampai umur saya ni, baru saya SEDAR kita akan jadi bahan bila kita bagi bahan untuk di 'bahankan'. Sebenarnya, dari dulu kita dah tau. Mak bapak dah letih cakap. Tapi kita buat bodoh. Ini contoh paling senang nak relate.
"Pendeknya skirt.."
"Eh, orang kat ofis adik skirt dia lagi pendek.."
"Itu orang lain, bukan anak Mak"
"Mak kalau nak masuk cerita pakai tudung, adik nak masuk bilik! Adik tak sedia lagilah"
Pastu, bila jiran dok pandang, terasa pulak. Bila pakcik2 dok senyum2 marah benau. Bila sepupu-sepapat perli2, sakit hati je. I lalu tu semua dulu..
(Haha, sekejap saya, sekejap aku, sekejap I...harap biasakan diri ye. Sebab saya ikut mood, dan intensiti citer.. haha)
Tapi, perlu ke kita memperli-perli, or menjeling2? Beri pandangan menghina? Ada pernah baca, sebagai orang Islam, kita bertanggungjawab memperbetulkan keatas seorang saudara Islam yang lain yang berbuat salah, yang menzalimi dirinya. Itu satu bentuk dakwah.
OK saya faham, rasanya anda juga faham.

Tapi kadang2 bila baca FB page artis2 Malaysia, rasa kesian baca insulting feedback. Klu tak menghina pun, sure kena sound suruh berhijab..

Berhenti dulu kat sini, sambung di  BUAT LETIH JE! Part 2,  bagi heightens the 'curiousity' ..should or shouldnt, yes or no,

NOTE: I AM ONE OF THOSE WHO, IN MY YOUNGER DAYS, MADE FOOLISH MISTAKES IN MANY WAYS - PLEASE KNOW THAT THIS ISNT IN ANY WAYS AT ALL, MEANT TO JUDGE OR ATTACK ANYONE - LETS LOOK AT THIS AS A MEAN  TO REFLECT AT/ON OUR ACTIONS UNTO OTHERS. PEACE???  ;-)

LEMBU PUNYA SUSU DAA...

.....sapi yang dapat nama! Orrr, yang terkena?
Hari ni kami  ada Neuro Clinic appointment. Today is the 5th time meeting Dr Badrul, he is a Motor Disorder Specialist. A great doctor I should add. Doctor yang rawat Trish. He is happy with her improvement  :-)  :-)  :-)
Hari ni however, as soon as we got in his room, he asked me about my spine. I told him in about 20 mins. He listened. Then picked up his cell phone and called his friend at ***M to meet me this Tuesday.. just like that
I mean he didnt even ask me if Tuesday would be ok to go see his Neuro-Specialist friend at ***M..aww, no..Im not mad or anything. He actually went out of his way really.  I was actually embarrassed.
Why?
When he was talking to his friend, he asked "if you can name a really good neuro and ortho surgeons, who and where man?" So he scribbled and said out loud, " Dr P, Prince Court.." And I swallowed my saliva. A lot.
Sebab pergi clinic dengan BMW. Saya langsung tak tau 3 or 5 or 7 series! Tapi sebijik macam gambar hiasan kat bawah ni ha.

Terus dia tepon kawan dia! Betullah kata orang kan, kalau dengan orang2 kaya-raya, semua orang nak buat baik. Yang dah baik, bertambah-tambah baik. Korang patut tau ni, I bukan orang kaya. I kayap!

So he jotted down my full name, ic number then asked for my cell number.
He didnt give me his friend's number..I just thought that its inappropriate to ask...for the doctor's number because he is an important, busy surgeon!
Before I left, he reminded me about the Tuesday appointment, and to tell the clerk, "Dr. Devan (not real name, so is Dr Jagdeep!) knows Im coming to see him, Im a friend of Dr Badrul!"

I mean yeah, its a big deal, when someone important let you tell people that youre his friend - Thank you Dr Badrul, semoga Dr Badrul dan keluarga sentiasa berada didalam lindunganNya, Amiiinnnn
(Entry ni TIADA niat negatif langsung!)

ABANG TOLONG SAYANG IKHLAS NI..

Hadoiii
Ada ke abang2 luar sana yang tolong ikhlas? Rasa cam susah lah percaya.
Kalau abang tu dah siap tanya, " Sayang masih period tak?"
Kata kawan saya, just last Sunday we were rambling away about my Ex and her husband, that there are still people yang ikhlas buat baik. For instance, she said, there are a few male friends of hers, " Kak, takde pun nak meraba2 punggung I, or mintak yang bukan2, dah dekat 20 tahun kitorang kawan..."
So that left me lost for words for a few minutes.
But, I did not mean that in a bad way, lol Norrie, youre a gone case!!
You see, I tak maksudkan yang bila orang tolong, mesti dia nak sesuatu seperti...kalau lelaki tolong perempuan, dia nak sex saja. Ummm...
Well I mean it in a 'good' way. Too. Terpulang kepada macamana korang menilainya.
OK, yang I maksudkan ialah..orang yang menolong, tak pernah tolong kosong. Samada mintak balasan berunsur seksual atau, yang mungkin menguntungkan, kalau itu yang dua2 mahu - nak ajak kawennnn. Tu pun ada udang sebalik KFC!
I takmo kawen dengan dia, walaupun dia berharta, berpangkat. Tapi hes not my style... (ERRR, ADA YANG NAK KENA TERAJANG NI...) no but really, hati ni memang tertutup untuk bernikah lagi. Lelaki zaman sekarang, kalau tak hawau..dia sebenarnya, tak boleh berfungsi! Atau, dia memang hamlau - dia kedua-duanya!
Yesss, thats what Im talking about!
See, still kan ada expectation.
Sekarang I takut senang2 nak terima pertolongan! Tetiba dengar "Nora tu aku tau lah dia tu pompuan jenis macamana! Spreads like melting butter! Sanggup buat apa je untuk duit.." Macam2 lagi orang pernah kata I.. my good friends kata, bila tak dapat, macam-macam depa dok bebel..
So, lebih baiklah dengan org lelaki, dari mula2 lagi I terus kata, hati I dah tertutup nak bercintan2 lagi. Nak kata I perasan, katalah..
Nak kata sombong pun, I ok je..janji tak lemas.
Saya sungguh2 takut orang kata saya ambil kesempatan..!

Dengan orang perempuan, lain pulak - topik dan hari lain.

Media Sosial

Dulu, ada saya terbaca posting di wall kawan yang menyentuh perihal 'tatasusila' di Media Sosial. Dulu saya memang bangang tentang adab dan 'teknik' penggunaannya, lebih-lebih lagi part setting privacy! Ada banyak kali saya pos status2 bodoh yang memalukan diri sendiri. Dan penggunaan PM/Group Inbox!!

Anyway, bukan tu saja yang nak saya cerita hari ni. Saya nak cerita pasal posting kawan saya di wall nya. Post nya adalah hukum atau adab bagi yang gemar mengepos makanan harian yang dimasak atau dimana makan yang lazat2. Saya tak pernah peduli sangat sebab saya pernah buat kesilapan.
Saya tak mau sentuh tentang hukum, sebab saya tak bertauliah langsung, tapi saya nak sentuh tentang adabnya. Bagi yang berniaga, kita perlu faham mereka mengiklan perniagaan dan produk.

Bagi yang bukan berniaga?
Ikut kawan saya, orang-orang macam ni, lebih kurang macam jenis kaum kurang kasih sayang. Menurutnya, mereka ni sebenarnya tidak dilayan sangat di rumah sendiri, atau ada masalah internal..kesepian, jeles..suka menunjuk-nunjuk. Article yang saya baca kata, macam mana orang yang membaca dan melihat gambar-gambar makanan yang dipos tu, orang yang tidak mampu, tapi tengok gambar, meleleh air liur...? Lepas tu, banyak saya tengok orang komen LIKE..dan agreed dengan apa yang dipersoalkan.
Seorang lagi kawanpun baru-baru ini brought up hal sama. Dalam grup Whatsappnya ada seorang kawan yang memang gemar betul mengepos lauk-pauknya ke Whatsapp dan sosial medianya. Grup kawan saya ni bukan calang-calang orangnya, semuanya duduk rumah banglo dan kereta tak kurang dari 2. Alkisahnya orang-orang yang mampu nak masak ketam, lamb, salmon dan udang size XL pun nyampah. Macam2 komen. Katanya " Hari ni hubby start course kat Penang, so.. masak simple je. Menu hari ni, sop tulang rusuk, mutton black pepper, pajeri nenas blah blah blah.."

Cemana ye bagi orang yang tak mampu?

Nak jadi cerita, Allah nak bagi saya rasa, macam mana.. Adalah seorang sedara yang mungkin terlalu kesunyian, kerana dia dah lama solo, tiada zuriat. Dia tinggal bersama anak sedaranya. Boleh dikatakan hampir 3, 4 kali seminggu, dia sure akan pos menunya pada saya di Watsapp! Macamana saya tau hanya saya saja? Dia selalu watsapp macam ni:
"Boring lah, mesej kawan2 aku semua tak jawab..kau buat apa nok? Arini masak blah blah blah..." or out of the blue..."Nak gi tesco ni, nak gi shopping.."

Anywayyyy, kadang2 ada gambar.
"Arini masak ketam masak lemak, sayur campur dengan udang besau2..." dan saya pun tak ingat, sebab banyak betul lauknya.
Hahahhd, kalau nak hantar pada orang susah macam saya ni, ada jugak baik dan pahalanya. Ni sekadar nak bagi ayaq liuq meleleh ja, mintak toksah lah hantaq lagi naaa.
Kitorang kata jobo tak pasal2!

Entahlah, harap2 orang2 macam ni tiada niat tidak baik, cuma mahu berkongsi kebahagiaan mereka kerana mampu makan mewah..

I HAVE NEVER LIED, AND ID NEVER LIE, EVER!!!

Really?
People who claimed that they have never lied, scares the shit out of me! PERIOD.
I dont believe that no one has (ever) NEVER lied...

Kitchen Cabinet..........

And more!

My kitchen cabinet needs help quick. I dont need a complete whole new built-ins, ya know. Just some parts under the sink and near it.
Ive been daydreaming about a new kitchen cabinet like the ones I saw on www.houzz.com - photo credit to #Houzz

I love the ideas.

I love a bright kitchen! Like the one in the photo above. But of course its not a wise idea. And I like not seeing/having a lot of things on the counter. I like them sort of..hidden, nicely stacked behind doors.

Talking about things nicely stacked, check this out:

Id sleep in THAT kitchen!
And heres something not to ignore!

I shall take a snap of the kitchen area tomorrow..  ;-)
Try to have a great day!

But oooohh, this is just a plan! (Remember the "And more" - scroll top) The house is probably 25 years old. There are a lot to do. And needs a lot of careful planning, especially financially. The bathrooms. The paint - inside and out. The yard. The store hut which doubles as a drying area.

A lot!

As a freelancer, I work on project basis which is not a fixed monthly payment,  sad to say...
But still, Alhamdulillah,  not the greatest but not too bad at all!

MENYAMPAHHHH

Alright, thats a Malay word meaning loathe - with only 1 H!
(Remember...this is MY distorted view..)
Stereotyping divorcees and spinsters is really so very common here. The female divorcees (MJs -Mak Janda as opposed to Anak Dara - Young Virgin/Maiden, well at least thats what I think!) are always man-hunting and hungry for sex ALL THE TIME! An old friend is being harrassed by her brother in law whom she looked up to as her own brother ever since he married her sister. Since her divorce, D started. Anyway, lets drop the gross details and skip to the part where he actually 'proposed' a sexual rendezvous. Outercourse is good enough! Ohh, and added "Im sure you want it too.."

Its true. There are some MJs who just cant live without men. Thereve been days when MJs feel alone and needing companionship.  Most definitely. But we dont just say yes to any Tom Dick and Harrys indecent proposal!

Same goes to Andartu, the Spinsters..not all of them are picky when it comes to having/starting a relationship. Then again, arent we all?
Andartu are usually labelled as.. fussy.  And overly sensitive. My own experience, I was accused of being selfish - she thought I wasnt listening when she told me about her whirlwind love-hate, on again- off again relationship with her romeo boyfriend. AND why she ran away from home because of her dad....!

I wasnt listening, she said!

Soooo, menyampah right? That theres an afflicting truth in the stereotyping of Mak Janda and Andartu..

THIS IS MY DISTORTED CONVICTION!

People seem to keep forgetting that!

I write about something else. Not another recipe blog, not cosmetic, not about insurance or selling a self-help tips in a book online... NO! I chose to rant. Just because a lot of times, people dont listen. In real life, when I try to make a point, and they dont listen, I could, ..... might get abusive. Verbally. Thats what I try to avoid. Here? Maybe they dont even know this blog exists. Then, this can be a lesson in life to us..

Im not THAT bad a person, or THAAAAAT negative at seeing people. Im a human being. I have my weaknesses too..
Yes, I know.

So yea, I wont be writing anything much like the other blogs. Because sometimes we get hurt by people we trust and care about. Sometimes, by a-nobody! People who dont even know us.

Do you tell your life story to people you hardly know?
Exactly, if you dont, then do not expect others to share embarrassing life experience just because you think you deserve to know!
Yes embarrassing, humiliating life experience happens.
Just like shit does

Go ahead, roll your eyes, raise your brow, make a face..

Driving..

I am not comfortable being driven to places. Thats just it! I have no other reasons/excuses, I just dont. Especially when its a long distant trip. It could spoil my mood rotten.

Maybe people are terrified at the thought of ME with a spinal complication, driving, and the fact that Im old, would get tired..and...things might just happen.

If for some reasons, people would get offended because I really insist to drive, instead of being driven, I apologize...

Or start saying things like "we are worried, we are concern.."

Ohh, please dont go there..
How about a prayer to keep us safe, instead?

Hari Terima Anugerah

Selaras dengan keluarnya keputusan UPSR hari ini, esok adalah hari penyampaian anugerah pelajar cemerlang Sekolah Kebangsaan Ampangan.
Tahun lepas, Trish yang naik pentas, tempat ketiga.
Esok, satu-satunya anak bujang saya, Mai,  InsyaAllah akan naik pentas.
First time in elementary level.
Alhamdulillah.

Yang saya nak share ialah Mai ni, sometimes I swear he is hyperactive! From playschool, his teachers commented that he walked around the class. Then left his pencil or eraser or ruler or even his book, everywhere. Dia selalunya tak ingat mana dia letak.

And he asks a lot of questions, about everything.

Personally, his final exam result is not very good. The haze attack sort of contributed to the confusion. Exam was postponed twice. So when children came back to school, they were 'rushed' to take the papers they missed.

Mai tak abispun buat Maths. 2 mukasurat tak buat. Dapat 64 saja for Maths. Mai ni saya peratikan macam leka je selalu. Tak tau lah. Saya nak minta referral untuk jumpa specialist, tapi menurut  MO dia takde masalah..hmm

Anyway, Mai...Tahniah kerana menjadi salah seorang penerima anugerah esok, Mama harap Mai terus usaha kuat dalam segala tugasan yang diberi. Perjalananmu masih jauh..

UPSR

Ujian Penilaian Sekolah Rendah

The result is out today. My daughter scored 5Bs. I am happy for her. Shes worked hard for that. They have all worked hard ever since the divorce. Its true a divorce hurts.
Dont! Dont say anything else.
We have gotten up and dusted off the hurt and shame.
Very slowly.

And my children will grow up stronger.
Youve crossed the 1st hurdle..

14th December - PT3 Result

Its been a while since I last wrote.. yes Im repeating myself.
Ive not only been lazy, please forgive my lack of enthusiasm...i must say I am bothered by a lot of things happening in the world..from  personal relationship to the international political scene!

Whoaaa norrie!

Im known as a person who rambles even when Im focused on something..
Well yea, Im trying to make a relevance to what im about to write!

Im bothered by the differences in religions. Not just with other beliefs, but among us Muslim too. Im bothered by people who only see faults in others and speak of god with reference from the holy book.. and behaving quite the opposite..

The recent Paris bombing..Im speechless.
"Good for you.."
"They deserve it.."

Im just going to draw the curtain and stay in the 'dark' for a bit..

How you look at Life - thats the real deal...

....really?
I look at life, the big picture, positively. Well, I try dammit!
Ever since.....,
I really cant remember when...


Aaah, since my cervical myelopathy! 4 neurologists told me Id never walk again, would be wheel-chair bound for the rest of my life.

Get this right - being positive is plain subjective. Much like raising children. There really are no hard and fast rules in parenting. Yes I believe it! When some wise guy came up with this >>> no one child is the same <<<<< thats exactly what they meant! No one person can be exactly the same. That every child must be great at Maths. Must excel in every exam. I hear people tell me, different things and do the complete opposite.

Someone once told me it doesnt matter what number/position a child achieved, or which class he or she is in, its the percentage!

Whaaaaaaat?? And in front of me, this very person made a phonecall, asking for a huge favour - to get her son into the 1st class..

But what? Thats what great mothers do?

Laaa!
It's almost the end of 2015. Im sorry, sadly this looks like an annually updated blog! Things just got a little towards...umm, lets just say, the unexpected side of the wall. Relationship between families, friends, and all beings for that matter. Sometimes, IT successfully made me think that I truly suck, at everything, with everyone!

Lol.

We are still in November, im aware of that. Probably a bit too early to write a 'review' on 2015, but what the heck!

2015....hmmm, not a bad year. Not a GREAT one either. I started wearing hijab. AGAIN. Yes..Was I misled the first time? The second time? Maybe. Today, I just live my life the way that makes me and my children happy. If and when I get or have more than usual, I ll try to make others happy. And if people keep annoying me, I ll just avoid them. So if you feel like "What the hell, why is Nora/Hazam avoiding me.." please know that youre one helluva annoying person! Im not sure why some people do it, but Im not letting anything brings me down.

Single moms in good old Malaysia, have to face so many things, going against us, probably like single mothers in countries like India, Nepal..?

When I talked about my children being bullied, a few people 'came up wit a solution' ..that I should reconcile, because the reason why they are being bullied is because they have no father. (Ohhh, and the lizard just chirped away..what is the correct word for the sound that house lizzards make..?) Us Malays believe that when a lizzard make its noise while youre talking..making a statement about someone or something, it means its telling you its true.. Apparently, some religious people say its true!

I rest my case.