when i first heard 3Ds (Dilly's Daily Dilemma) on mix.fm i thought "ok..can this beat battle of the sexes?" just that i thought jds interview thingy is silly and annoying. its been almost a year, i think and it gets better and better..i wouldnt say better than battle of the sexes, i just love both! good job dilly!
the reason why i brought Dilly's Daily Dilemma here is because i have been getting messages from friends and acquaitances on facebook and people following my blog talking about what theyre going through. isnt that something????? i really never thought of that.
so, i decided to ask permission from one of them if i could write about it in my blog, of course not revealing the names or true identity. all that i asked, have agreed! VOILA!
heres my first debut..uh huh
her subject title read: I MARRIED A BASTARD, REALLY!
I went to your blog because I was bored. Sorry. I have seen it on Facebook notification a few times, just never bothered to go until last month. I always respect our relationship in ways of what it was based on, I learn about relationship of husbands and wives, family in laws and friends. I never believed that I should check his phone or be suspicious everytime when a girl calls. But on the night of our anniversary, I just thought I should break all the rules. We went out, had a nice dinner. And he bought me what I asked for. Yes I got what I asked for. But I guess this is what they call a woman's intuition. We went to bed that night, the same as any other day. No hot sex. No romantic pillow talk. I'm sorry, we've been married for 4 years and there is still no sign of us having kids. He said he loves children. Okay, I guess that is besides the point. Or is it? Well he sure wasn't trying hard enough. We were in bed and he was still busy replying to his BB messages that kept coming in. I got really annoyed. It's been going on for months already. I mean what is it that couldn't wait for tomorrow that he had to be texting messages in the middle of the night? On our anniversary? I almost lost my temper but I thought, calm down, do it professionally. I was trying to be funny. I waited until he was fast asleep. I took his phone and left our room. There were hundreds of messages conversation with a lady. Lets name her N. Some were normal stuff. Some sounded like work related. And some was pure disgusting sex talk!!! There was one conversation where he admitted that he's married and that he's not completely happy because the lack of action in our sex life because he said I'm fat! Then he added he likes a little flesh but I'm always busy with work and never there for him. That we have sex, may be once a month, when I say Okay, it's sex night tonight!
I don't know what to say. I confronted him in the morning. He denied it all. He said she was just a friend. A single mother. She meant nothing to him. It was just a fling. He was bored. And in the end, when he ran out of excuses, I think, he said N doesn't him anyway when he told her that he's married. SERVES YOU RIGHT!!!!
A classic excuse right? I think I've heard them all before from another woman's mouth.
It's true we don't have sex every night. But we are both working 2 jobs! Things looked normal until he met N, I think. Now I'm convinced that he met N at work. I mean if he would just tell me that he wanted sex, I would gladly gie him what he wanted, God damn you, I want sex too, you idiot!
My husband, he is just a typical dark tall, not bad looking guy. I fell in love with him because he was this quiet, shy guy, I thought would never cheat on his wife! Another thing, he told N that he's had affairs before but before he was married. He never told me that! He told her how he liked them in bed. HE DESCRIBED what the previous girlfriends did for him, sexually! So much for shy, quiet guy!!
Okay, my problem now Nora, is that I can't live a lie anymore. I have lost all my respect for him. I feel disgusted and dirty. Why? I have no idea. He should be feeling this way, not me! But he's perfectly normal. Like nothing happened. And he wants me to do the same. For the sake of our marriage but I want out! I really want out. I'm not sure what or why I write to you. Maybe, for some advice. May be just to let things out. I really don't know.
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ive written to her and share my opinion. the decision making is all hers. sometimes we just need an unbias opinion on what we wish to do, just to be clear-headed. she was devastated because she believed that the relationship she had with her husband is true 'to the bone'. she trusted him. she let him had his ways with what he wants to do. and he betrayed her. thats what i think.
shoot! didnt i sound bias there??????
the reason why i brought Dilly's Daily Dilemma here is because i have been getting messages from friends and acquaitances on facebook and people following my blog talking about what theyre going through. isnt that something????? i really never thought of that.
so, i decided to ask permission from one of them if i could write about it in my blog, of course not revealing the names or true identity. all that i asked, have agreed! VOILA!
heres my first debut..uh huh
her subject title read: I MARRIED A BASTARD, REALLY!
I went to your blog because I was bored. Sorry. I have seen it on Facebook notification a few times, just never bothered to go until last month. I always respect our relationship in ways of what it was based on, I learn about relationship of husbands and wives, family in laws and friends. I never believed that I should check his phone or be suspicious everytime when a girl calls. But on the night of our anniversary, I just thought I should break all the rules. We went out, had a nice dinner. And he bought me what I asked for. Yes I got what I asked for. But I guess this is what they call a woman's intuition. We went to bed that night, the same as any other day. No hot sex. No romantic pillow talk. I'm sorry, we've been married for 4 years and there is still no sign of us having kids. He said he loves children. Okay, I guess that is besides the point. Or is it? Well he sure wasn't trying hard enough. We were in bed and he was still busy replying to his BB messages that kept coming in. I got really annoyed. It's been going on for months already. I mean what is it that couldn't wait for tomorrow that he had to be texting messages in the middle of the night? On our anniversary? I almost lost my temper but I thought, calm down, do it professionally. I was trying to be funny. I waited until he was fast asleep. I took his phone and left our room. There were hundreds of messages conversation with a lady. Lets name her N. Some were normal stuff. Some sounded like work related. And some was pure disgusting sex talk!!! There was one conversation where he admitted that he's married and that he's not completely happy because the lack of action in our sex life because he said I'm fat! Then he added he likes a little flesh but I'm always busy with work and never there for him. That we have sex, may be once a month, when I say Okay, it's sex night tonight!
I don't know what to say. I confronted him in the morning. He denied it all. He said she was just a friend. A single mother. She meant nothing to him. It was just a fling. He was bored. And in the end, when he ran out of excuses, I think, he said N doesn't him anyway when he told her that he's married. SERVES YOU RIGHT!!!!
A classic excuse right? I think I've heard them all before from another woman's mouth.
It's true we don't have sex every night. But we are both working 2 jobs! Things looked normal until he met N, I think. Now I'm convinced that he met N at work. I mean if he would just tell me that he wanted sex, I would gladly gie him what he wanted, God damn you, I want sex too, you idiot!
My husband, he is just a typical dark tall, not bad looking guy. I fell in love with him because he was this quiet, shy guy, I thought would never cheat on his wife! Another thing, he told N that he's had affairs before but before he was married. He never told me that! He told her how he liked them in bed. HE DESCRIBED what the previous girlfriends did for him, sexually! So much for shy, quiet guy!!
Okay, my problem now Nora, is that I can't live a lie anymore. I have lost all my respect for him. I feel disgusted and dirty. Why? I have no idea. He should be feeling this way, not me! But he's perfectly normal. Like nothing happened. And he wants me to do the same. For the sake of our marriage but I want out! I really want out. I'm not sure what or why I write to you. Maybe, for some advice. May be just to let things out. I really don't know.
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ive written to her and share my opinion. the decision making is all hers. sometimes we just need an unbias opinion on what we wish to do, just to be clear-headed. she was devastated because she believed that the relationship she had with her husband is true 'to the bone'. she trusted him. she let him had his ways with what he wants to do. and he betrayed her. thats what i think.
shoot! didnt i sound bias there??????
